Wednesday, April 11, 2012

Thoughts on Love and Marriage

 M and I are redefining our relationship. Right now we are in a separation. We both have a lot of things we need to work through. Our relationship has been severely damaged. I left because I couldn't stand being abused verbally and emotionally. I know there are some in the Christian community who would say I have not given our marriage a chance, and that I should stay with my husband. This is something I struggle with daily. I wanted so much to be a Titus 2 woman, a Proverbs 31 wife and a keeper at home. I often second guess myself, but at the same time I know God did not create marriage for suffering and abuse. A marriage should be joyful -- not always happy -- but always loving. I believe in Biblical headship, I wanted my husband to be the head of our family and to lead us in prayer and faith and worship. BUT that is not the man I married. In my experience he asked for servility not submission, humiliation rather than humility. He even began to use my faith against me. I have my faults, make no mistake, I am a sinner redeemed by Christ and that does not mean I will not continue to stumble and fall during my walk with him. I take heart from second Timothy: 1:7.


  1. Kim - I have enjoyed reading your blog.
    It is such a tough road to walk with a Christian heart and a world ravaged by sin.
    Keep your love for God up front, like you do, and things will be bright.
    I too love crocheting and exploring everything silly and colorful!
    Started a blog, which may or may not be successful, but, lots of fun.
    I am loving Jer 29:11 lately :)
    Your sister in Christ, Linda

  2. Hi Kim, found your blog through Attic 24. Enjoyed reading it - don't assume people are not reading your blog because we don't comment, I think this may be the first comment i have ever written to a blog because i am technology challenged!!
    I just want to encourage you to kep your heart close to God, enjoy every minute you can with your little girl and keep up with the crochet.
    Keep persevering with your relationship with your husband, BUT you are quite correct when you wrote that God did not create marriage for suffering and abuse.
    Marriage is an equal partnership with each equally giving and taking